Before the article begins today, let’s talk about a little story.
In an afternoon coffee, two women began to talk about their homes and found their lives very similar: they all have very happy families, work is stable, both parents are healthy, there are no problems on the surface, but two people The heart is very painful because they feel that they have been deeply hurt.
Xiao Yan is a temperament girl. She loves music since childhood, and the violin won the first prize in the talent show in the university. She usually loves to read books and has a small circle of life. After graduation, she is assigned to be a teacher at a local school, and her life is calm and comfortable. After a day of introduction, I got to know the muscular male student. When I met for the first time, I felt the other person’s gas field. The sly eyes made her enjoy and be ashamed. I still remember the illusion that I can’t help but go home on the way home, how the future male hormones can melt themselves. Fortunately, Wensheng thinks the same way, so the next story is the same. There are few places to walk, no place to kiss, one month to go to Kunming, the first time I opened the room, I have no time to shower, then Feelings are unforgettable. In the seven years after the marriage, the literati was full of enthusiasm, which limited Xiao Xiao’s class reunion and social activities with opposite sex. In the later years, I found that in ordinary life, Wensheng had no interest in Xiaoyan, until now she discovered her husband’s vision of other passions of the opposite sex. Xiao Yan began to think about what happened to love, marriage, and family.
The story is very ordinary, but the two women who chatted have similar experiences and are strikingly similar. There have been no waves in my life, but why I have deviated from the most persistent love. The common problems in this society are thought-provoking.
The above is a standard sexual psychology case. We can trigger the root cause by triggering from the most primitive angle. If both of them understand the characteristics of sexual psychology, the question will have an answer.
Sexual love is the admiration of the opposite sex and the close emotional experience based on sexual desire. It is intuitive, secretive, impulsive, exclusive, and new.
Intuition
This is a unique feature of sex. Whether it can produce sex is often judged by the perception of both sides. This kind of intuition is the accumulation of long-term observation, experience, and imagination of the parties. The confirmation of a person is sometimes subconscious; this is what we often say at first sight. People who fall in love at first sight have already sketched the image of a vague standard of the opposite sex in their brains. Once they meet in life, they can quickly spark. The scene with the deepest memory of Xiao Yan is also an unforgettable moment, nothing more. The current Xiaoyan still pursues the previous “instant”, which is an unrealistic start.
Human sex is different from animals. The high-intelligence emotional elements are very different from the animal’s instinct. Human sexuality is different from comrades-in-arms, girlfriends, and respect for the boss. It shows the characteristics of not knowing and not letting people see, especially in primary sex. It is often said that a woman in love is stupid for three years. Silence, lack of concentration, and willingness to be alone are the characteristics of the initial sex. Covert is one of the symbols of human civilization. Concealment makes people’s sex more subtle and poetic. Of course, some people say that there are kisses and relatives on the streets of foreign countries, but in general, it is better to quietly carry out more satisfaction in the quiet place. There is no hiddenness in Xiao Yan’s life. This is the reason why there is no passion in the life of sex.
Impulsive
Impulsivity is the original feature of sex. The strong desire to be close to sex and the desperate behavior that is provoked at any time are sexual impulses. Of course, such impulses are quick and explosive, but the control is poor. The irrationality at this time is the main factor leading to socially vicious cases. Of course, impulsiveness is also a concrete manifestation of the intensity of love. In the story of the eternal regret, most of the lover can not become a genus is the lack of this “impulse”, Chinese traditional culture has bound countless perfect marriage. In the above cases, the small shackles in love belong to the “reasonable” impulse, which is quite normal; but both sides in real life lack this important element.
Exclusivity
Exclusivity is the biggest feature of sex. It refers to the psychological tendency of people to reject others’ sexual proximity to their sexual objects. This is also the biological instinct. Human exclusivity is influenced by many social factors. Monogamy restricts each other physically and psychologically, and morally promotes “exclusiveness.” Xiaoyan’s sexual partner is her husband, and the ideas and opinions formed are also exclusive. At the first marriage, Xiao Yan saw the hustle and bustle of Wensheng, and also verified how deep the love of Wensheng was on the side.
New opposite sex
New opposite sex is also very common. Seeing the new opposite sex is enjoyable, and seeing the opposite sex can renew the passion of sex. This is also the instinct of human beings. No matter what men and women are, human beings are only suppressed by morality. New opposite sex is the biological instinct of new and old. When a man is derailed and a woman is abducted, we can attack it from a moral level, but this is normal in sexual psychology. The final affair of Xiaoyan’s husband is a problem faced by most families. How to face up and how to prevent and avoid it is first to understand each other’s sexual psychology.
Male sexual psychology
1, like to see a woman. A man holding a woman on the street will throw a glimpse at the moment when he and the beautiful opposite sex pass by. This is not a male lust, but a subconscious “multi-view”.
2, like to see a woman’s nude. The private part of women’s long-term concealment is irritating to men’s psychology. The scientific argument is determined by the inherently erotic relationship between the individual and the heterosexual contact.
3, like to touch women. Men are born with a strong exposure to heterosexuality. The so-called man’s sensibility is to hope to reach out to women, show the intimacy of both sides, and the heart is confirmed.
4, like to talk. It is not a low-level interest, nor a down-to-earth, but a normal sexual psychological reaction of a man.
5, like to listen to the woman’s past. A man is born with an exclusive desire. In the current situation of monopoly, he hopes that his woman will be unique and exclusive from now to the present. Sometimes in the process of sex, there is also a situational fantasy guide, so that I put more important roles in the role, increase sexual desire.